This one’s especially for you sef’frikans… The whole “how are you?”, “im fine thank you, how are you” has become such a commonplace greeting in South Africa, and obviously across the rest of the world, that people would ACTUALLY fall over if your response was anything other than ‘fine’ - i dare you to try it…
My very lovely sister-in-law sent me this link this morning - http://www.ruokday.com.au/content/home.aspx ( sorry my blogging skills are so basic, i don’t know how to activate this - good ol copy and paste for you folks ) PLEASE go and have a look…
Are you ok is an initiative that was started when a businessman who appeared to have it all together, took his life in 1995. It’s a dedicated day ( TODAY ) where you get to ask people around you - for reals - if they’re ok. The idea is that is we share the small things, whilst they’re still small, they won’t amount to big, overwhelming problems that can push even the most grounded people over the edge.
The last few months have been bitter/sweet for VT and I, as for some reason, the most special and wonderful people in our lives have had to face things that, well people just shouldn’t have to face. Our thoughts have been consumed by these brave people and it kind of struck me when i read this that, potentially there are so many people we know that are struggling with problems we don’t even know about. If that’s you, i hope you’re ok - and more importantly, when someone asks you if you’re ok maybe actually tell them you’re taking a bit ‘o strain - you might be surprised by their response ( Let’s hope they give you a hug instead of getting nervous and running away ).
I grew up in a typically British - stiff - upper - lip kinda house and it’s taken me, and us as a family, a while now to figure out that it’s ok to not be ok sometimes - it’s amazing how people can take it turns to pick each other up when it’s needed.
Ok that’s all for now, i feel like this has been bordering on vom-in-ya-mouth Dr Phil vibes, but sometimes blogging calls for more than frilly panties and cupcakes y’know?
See ya later x